If you have a longing to be married, chances are you probably have some qualities you are looking for in a future husband. If you’re like me, you’ve most likely been thinking about them for a while, maybe even you’re whole life. I grew up in a home where my parents routinely prayed for my future spouse from a young age. I remember my mom throwing in some future-husband-blessings into our breakfast prayer, at the dinner table, or saying goodnight with a simple, “Lord, please bless Lauren’s future husband, whomever he may be.” Every time my mom or dad would pray with me about my future husband, I knew that they wanted God’s man for me.
The Bible says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus,” (Philippians 4:6-7). Instead of being anxious about why we haven’t met “The One” yet, we are to instead ask for a husband humbly (supplication), and with thanksgiving. It can be challenging to be thankful, especially in the midst of doubt, fear, rejection, and disappointment. “With thanksgiving” is like saying “thank you” to God for His continued persistence of YOU, and for HIS preparing the right person for you in His time.
I recently finished “Praying for Your Future Husband” by Robin Gunn and Tricia Goyer. I highly recommend it to all of you single ladies. If you are still wondering what some qualities are you should look for in your future spouse, Robin and Tricia help women pray boldly for their future mate while also asking God to prepare their own hearts. To learn more about the book, click here.
I want to be open with you. So make yourself comfortable, grab a cup of coffee, and read carefully. I have been writing in a “Husband Diary” for a while now and want to share some of the qualities I desire in my future husband. As a single woman, I spend time writing in this book and praying over my words. I encourage you to do the same. To help you get started, I’ve developed a list to encourage you to think about and pray for. To read more about holding out for your prince charming, click here.
Maybe you haven’t put a lot of thought into who you would like to spend the rest of your life with. Maybe you have some ideas, but haven’t really prayed over them. Whatever your reasons, these are the qualities I am looking for, and hope you will consider as well. (These are straight from my Husband Diary.)
Matthew 6:33 – “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
- He’s a Christian. God’s word transforms his heart.
- He’s a believer and follower of Jesus, he practices what he preaches.
- He loves his family and my family.
- He is committed to building the Kingdom of God.
- He is generous, willing to sacrifice his time, money and energy for others.
- He puts others’ needs above his own.
- He serves God willingly, even if it means he has to make difficult decisions.
- He has integrity and does not put himself in tempting situations.
- He is slow to anger.
- He is honorable.
- He holds strong conviction on the sacredness of fidelity.
- He has a strong work ethic.
- He is humble and can admit when he is wrong.
- He has a heart of compassion.
- He is a protector and makes me feel safe.
- He is patient and kind.
- He is not jealous or boastful.
- He is not irritable.
- He keeps no record of being wronged.
- He never gives up, loses faith, always hopeful.
- He loves children.
- He has a great love for the Word of God.
- He is a hard worker.
- He is a great leader.
- He is a great listener.
These are just a few items to help you get started. If you don’t have a Husband Diary, I strongly recommend you begin writing one. The purpose of the journal is to 1) turn any discontentment into prayerful expectation, 2) to work out your salvation, 3) to track your spiritual growth, 4) to navigate your singleness with complete trust in God’s character and love, 5) and proof that even the hardest years of singleness can bring glory to God.
If you don’t know how to pray for your future husband, here’s some suggestions:
- Pray for his relationship with God. That he will actively pursue God in all areas of his life, that he will practice what he preaches.
- Pray for his purity. That his intentions are honorable and noble. He will steer clear from temptation.
- Pray for his relationship with others. He is a friend, a man of character, and a listener. He has compassion for other people.
- Pray for his occupation. He represents Christ in his work, his acts of service demonstrate his desire to do what is right. He is a leader in his work and home.
- Pray for his future wife (that’s you!) He has a desire to help you, to work with you, and to provide for his family. He has prayed for you and wants God in the center of your relationship.
Also, don’t just pray for your future husband. First, ask God to raise up a generation of godly men who are willing to be godly husbands and fathers. Pray for your brothers in Christ that they will be capable of the commitments of marriage.
Second, pray for yourself. Pray that you will not only be a woman of God, but also a godly wife. That you will seek God’s kingdom first before building your own. You have qualities too that your future husband is expecting of you. (I will address this in a later post.)
What are some qualities that you long for in your future husband? Let me know by leaving a comment below or on social media.
“Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” -1 Samuel 16:7
Resource: “Praying for Your Future Husband” by Robin Gunn and Tricia Goyer.