Finding Your Why

Have you ever been told to “take a chill pill,” or “put on a happy face” when you really don’t feel like it? Our society has been taught to believe that dissatisfaction is a bad thing, that we are to ignore it, shove it down, go buy something new, and move on. But after some retail therapy, you return home with your shopping bags in hand, and after putting your new things away, you still feel empty.

Dissatisfaction can be a road block on our journey through life. But it can also serve as a sign that God has another purpose for us. So if you are miserable in your current situation, pray, seek counsel from friends and family, and pursue guidance through Scripture. If you still feel miserable, consider that God may have another plan for you.

A possible reason why you are feeling dissatisfied is because you lack purpose. You lack a why. Why do you do the things you do? Why do you wake up in the morning? The reason you feel like you’re not getting anywhere, like you’re forever running a directionless race, is because you don’t have the purpose behind what it is you are doing. You don’t know why you’re running, you just are.

After I lost my job, I asked myself why this happened to me. I was angry because I was laid off, frustrated that I had to find a new job, and dissatisfied that I was unemployed while my friends were. But God taught me something. I had lacked purpose, my why, while I had been working, and He gave me the opportunity to evaluate my life. I got more involved in my church, dove more into the Scripture, and started this blog. I realized how my attitude changed. I spent more time with God, asking Him what He wants to do with me, not asking Him why He let this happen to me.

So, what is the purpose of your life?

You were designed purposefully. You were not accidental, but intentional. God made you with His own hands, and knows exactly what you are doing today, tomorrow, and years from now. He understands the crossroads you are currently experiencing. You may be asking yourself, Why are all my doors closing? Why do I feel lonely or rejected? 

God knows what you are wondering. He knew what you were thinking when your feet hit the floor this morning. He knew what you were thinking when you were making your cup of coffee. He knows what you’re going to think about throughout today and what you’ll dream about tonight. Turn your wonders into prayers. Ask God to help you navigate the map of your life, pray that He will not only guide you down the path that is right for you, but will also use you to bring glory to Him.

Write your desires down. Write what you love to do and what is important to you. Maybe you like to be around friends and family, doing a particular hobby, or traveling. Focus on what is important to YOU. Then, pray about it. Turn your list over to God, and ask Him to use your gifts and passions for His glory.

Evaluate your priorities

Once you have a list of what is important to you, think about why you love them and why they are important in your life. For example, maybe you wrote down that you love being around people. This is what lead me to my Communications degree. I love being around people, studying them, and communicating with them. My education revolved around people and understanding why humans communicate the way they do. That was my why, but God was the one who gave me my purpose. He allowed me to share the gospel of Christ with young girls, and to communicate my passion for the Lord through the writings in this blog as a way to inspire women to seek Christ in their own lives.


Consider your why

Consider that your why is not just about you. It is about what God wants to do through you. If you ignore or neglect your dissatisfaction, you are not only betraying yourself, but you are betraying God. He has called you to a purpose and wants you to walk in it.

Your dissatisfaction is only for a season. Finding your “why” will help you find purpose in your life and give you the energy, motivation, and courage to help you keep running your race. God has something amazing coming your way, keep your eyes on the finish line, and keep running.


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